The holiday season can be a joyous time of connection, celebration, and gratitude. For individuals in early recovery, however, it can also bring unique challenges, especially when it comes to attending family gatherings or facing social situations involving alcohol. In this special Thanksgiving edition of The Hanley Effect podcast, we explored strategies to help both those in recovery and their families navigate the holidays with love, support, and confidence.
Here are some key insights and actionable tips from our discussion to help make this holiday season into meaningful and sober celebrations.
For Families: Supporting Your Loved One in Recovery
Holidays are often about togetherness; for someone in recovery, feeling loved and supported by family can make all the difference. But it’s not always easy to know how to help. Here’s where to start:
Open Communication is Key
Before the gathering, talk to your loved one about how you can support their sobriety. A simple, heartfelt conversation can go a long way. For example:
“We’re so proud of your recovery and want you to know how much we care. How can we make Thanksgiving comfortable for you? If it’s better to avoid alcohol this year, we’re happy to do that.”
This approach shows love, respect, and acceptance while putting your loved one’s needs at the center.
Keep the Focus on Fellowship
Thanksgiving is about gratitude, family, and connection—not what’s in anyone’s glass. Shift the focus from traditional toasts or wine pairings to meaningful moments like sharing what everyone is thankful for or spending quality time together.
For Individuals in Recovery: Planning for Success
Navigating your first big holiday gathering in sobriety can be daunting, but preparation and support make all the difference. Here are some tools to help:
Practice Setting Boundaries
You might encounter well-meaning but pushy people who insist you have a drink. Practice saying “No, thank you” with confidence—remember, “No” is a complete sentence. If it feels tough, role-play the scenario with a sponsor, mentor, or therapist ahead of time.
Bring a Trusted Support Person
Having someone in your corner can make a world of difference. A partner, close friend, or family member who understands your journey can help redirect conversations, support your choices, or be there as a source of comfort.
Have a Non-Alcoholic Beverage Ready
A simple sparkling water with lime or cranberry juice can serve as your go-to drink. Having a beverage in hand can often deter questions or pressure to drink alcohol.
The Power of Connection and Support
Both families and individuals in recovery can benefit from leaning into their support systems. The holidays can be stressful for everyone, and sharing struggles with trusted loved ones lightens the emotional load.
As we discussed in the podcast, when you share your challenges, it’s like handing off a “hot potato.” The burden becomes easier to bear when you have someone to share it with. Whether it’s a mentor, a loved one, or a supportive friend, connection is key to maintaining your sobriety and enjoying the season.
Making the Holidays About What Matters Most
The holidays are a time to focus on gratitude, love, and fellowship. For families, this means offering unconditional support and creating a safe, inclusive space. For individuals in recovery, it means preparing for challenges, leaning on your community, and prioritizing your well-being.
Recovery is about finding joy and connection without relying on substances—and Thanksgiving offers a perfect opportunity to celebrate how far you’ve come.
Wishing you a safe, joyous, and sober Thanksgiving from all of us at Hanley Foundation!
